Family are amazing aren’t they ? I had a chat with my Dad today, who was just back from a his first trip to Africa, needless to say he LOVED it and then I had a few email exchanges with my Mum and next week I will have the joy of seeing one my Brothers for a few days too. You know, and I am sure its the same for you, they have known me at my best, they have known me at my worst. I don’t know about you but there were a few years there that my family and I weren’t really talking, but thats a story for another time, and Thankfully that is a thing of the past.
The key point is – they still love us right ? Incredible really when I think about what I put them through !!
And no matter what is happening in life your family will generally accept you, that or tell you what you need to do to sort it out 🙂 !!
But what about out in the big bright or sometimes not so bright, world ?
How do people know who you are there ? How do they know if they can trust you ? Or more importantly how do you know if you can trust them ? How can you form meaningful connections with people in friendships, in partnerships ? The first two are tough enough let alone meaningful connections in business !
Today our quick query is from Katie, she writes :
Savannah, I am loving the site and the opportunity to connect with you and ask questions, so thank you,
Thank you Katie thats what we are here for 🙂
she goes on to say :
I am about to start a new business, which I have been wanting to do for several years now. There are 2 things I am worried about.
The first is : the most important thing to me is that my business has meaning, that it really will make a difference in the world and I can meaningful connect with people through it – but I also realise it needs to be a business to survive. How can I do this ?
The second thing is : I am really shy, I know I am going to have to go and talk to new people about my business and I am afraid that my shyness is going let me down. I like talking to people who know me but people I don’t know, talking to them scares me, and I get really stuck.
I’m afraid they will judge me, or attack me, or worse still just ignore me and that I will ultimately fail. I’m feeling stuck and a bit depressed about it really, but at the same time I am still certain starting my own business is what I want to do. Do you have any words of wisdom ?
Katie, those are 2 AWESOMELY juicy questions !!
There so many parts so I’m going to break it down – let’s jump in.
1. Starting your own business
I am sure you already have a clear picture of what business you are going to start and why you are doing it.
If you don’t or even if you do I highly recommend the book
I would highly recommend you get yourself a coach and go deep put an outline & plan in place for your business.
If you really want to start a meaningful business, I invite you to consider the wise questions Elon Musk – Founder and Owner of Tesla asks himself before he begins a company.
a. Can it be done ? (that by doing it there are no laws of physics being broken)
b. Is it important ? For me and for humanity.
If he gets a yes to both of those he goes ahead….now is it important to humanity is a big question….but if you are looking to meaningfully connect in business. It is a question you will need to ask. Again a coach can support you in exploring this – we will send you a list of coaches we recommend.
I would also recommend reading :
2. People Attack You, Judge You or Ignore You
This fear is totally normal – we all go through it 🙂 I have been through it and I know many of our community have been through it too. I like to look on it as a right of passage to becoming successful in your business.
There will be people who hate on you like crazy and others who love every thing you offer up….this process is called finding your tribe.
Just focus on one conversation at a time rather than thinking you need to talk to everyone at once.
Others will learn soon enough what kind of person you really are.
And believe me this is sooo true 🙂 !
Spend your time and energy on constant self-inspection and self-improvement, strengthen your character, and you will never have to worry about what others think of you.
Ultimately though the most important thing is how you feel about yourself. That you take time daily for inner reflection and to listen to and act on your feelings. That you are committed to following your path daily with small steps.
Now on to getting unstuck !!
3. Getting unstuck
When you hit a mental wall or even an emotional wall one of the best things you can do is move your body….. I am a HUGE dancing fan, I think this stems from my former ice skating days, I will put on a favourite track of the moment and go for it I call is shaking my ‘GeniAss’ Out !
And with what you are talking about the song that jumps into my head is a Taylor Swift song – Shake it Off !!
Once you have shaken it all off.
One step at a time, one conversation at a time. Have your plan and follow it. What is your next step and take it….
Remember Katie – now is your time to shine.
I’m really cheering you on, I invite you to be seen, share your dream & meaningful connect through your business.
Your potential can light up the world in ways you can’t yet see.
Lets go illuminate this world together 😀
So Katie that is my answer to your quick query. I really hope it helped.
Now over to you. What do you do to help you get unstuck? How do you overcome the fear of talking to new people ? And how do you meaningfully connect in business ?
Share with us in the comments below 😀