Ever feel like you’re a human pretzel, bending over backwards to meet everyone’s needs but your own? Today, we are addressing a cornerstone of healthy relationships – boundaries. Boundaries are your personal lines in the sand – navigating their creation and maintenance can feel like a tightrope walk, especially if you’re battling ghosts from the past or struggling with voicing your needs. If this resonates, then buckle up. We’re about to embark on a quest for well-defined, respect-infused boundaries.
Boundaries come in all shapes and sizes. They come in every flavour, helping you shape a relationship with yourself, with your loved ones, your business associates or otherwise.
Let me ask you a few somethings. Do you struggle with saying no? Are you constantly bending over backwards for others? Would you say your confidence needs some work? That, perhaps, you have some unresolved inner child issues that show up and bite you in the butt when you least expect them?
Childhood rejection can make us boundary-shy adults, where voicing your needs feels harder than finding a four-leaf clover. This is often founded in a fear that standing up for yourself will cause offence, upset people or even send them running for the hills.
I would like to help you to navigate the tricky path and point you towards healthier boundaries. I love empowering you and the thousands of people I’ve worked with over the years. Finding the sweet spot is like navigating a tightrope walk. But rest assured, I’ve got your back.
When you say YES to all the things, it can feel like the world is constantly demanding a piece of you or even taking advantage of your generosity. Some people might have hidden agendas or simply struggle to see the bigger picture. But the truth of the matter is this, most people base their relationship moves on the signals you send.
Unclear signals can cause people to cross your boundaries by accident. Until you’re able to express your boundaries, you will keep seeing the same patterns repeating in these relationships. And guess what? It’s your responsibility (as in, you have the ability to respond) to define your boundaries.
Gauging others and knowing early on if your boundaries have been breached is part of the journey of your intuitive connection from your body and mind and upleveling to what I like to call a High Functioning Human.
Having a guideline of what is important to you personally is the key.
First off, you need to know your personal limits. If your fascia is free your body will tell you that information VERY clearly. I know how easy it is to always place other people’s needs over your own (as I’ve already said, this can be a hangover from childhood that you are still dealing with in your adult life).
My question to you is: Are you ready to develop adult emotional boundaries?
And better physical boundaries?
I can practically hear you shouting, “YES”!
Here is how I say YES to better boundaries. I like to utilise these three words:
Compassion, Intuition, Kindness.
What’s important is HOW you use those 3 words!
What I am going to say next may shock you. Rather than using these words for others, the words you’re going to use will be to check in with yourself… Ask yourself:
Am I being compassionate to my needs?
Am I honouring what my body’s intuition is telling me?
And is what I am about to do being kind to myself?
In the next blog we’re going to explore actionable strategies for defining and sustaining boundaries within your relationships. Plus I’ll introduce you to a transformative ‘Relationship Check-Up’ designed to guide you in assessing the alignments of your established boundaries. Comment below if you think your boundaries need some TLC!
As always, I remain a cheerleader for your inner self-worth,
