[Ponder This] The Most Important Thing To Know To Be A Happy Human Being



It’s coming up to Easter and you’ve decided to get away for a week of winter sunshine after a grey cold wet few months. You’ve just landed. Its sunny and wonderful. You get your hire car and you head for where you are staying…but first you need to make an unexpected stop….because your man has a meeting.

He parks the car and tells you to lock the doors. Telling you to wait a few minutes. Locking the doors seems odd, until you look up to see a woman sat on a pile of rubble 20 yards away shooting up heroin. 

This happened to me.

Flash back to Lisbon in 2000 : I’m sitting in our hire car, in the sweltering heat, all the windows closed with all the doors locked watching a waste land of rubble with a single woman barely clothed shooting up with a dirty needle.

I have a cigarette to calm my nerves (that was how I ‘managed’ my emotions then) and I open the window only enough to let the smoke out. Then I listen to a meditation tape, whilst I try to ‘clear my mind’ and trust that the car won’t going to get broken into…or any thing more sinister happen.

I am naively waiting for my man, who I believe has gone to ‘visit a friend’ – I can now tell you these ‘visits’ are not so friendly, many times he returns with a knife in hand and out of breath and of course unknown to me at the time packets of various narcotics.

In that kind of situation its easy to ask yourself – why is this ‘happening’ me ?

I actually believe I was there so I could sit here now and write this to you.

What it has taught me is –

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But why am I sharing this story with you ? I want to share with you one of my driving passions in life – meaningful connection.

Flash forward to today :

Last week I read an article in the Huffington Post about Lisbon’s drug issue in 2000 and the social experiment that took place there – it said :

“Nearly fifteen years ago, Portugal had one of the worst drug problems in Europe, with 1 percent of the population addicted to heroin. They had tried a ‘war on drugs’ and the problem just kept getting worse. So they decided to do something radically different.

They decriminalised all drugs, and transferred all the money they used to spend on arresting and jailing drug addicts, and spend it instead on reconnecting them — to their feelings, and to a wider society. So things like new clean housing, jobs and social interaction and connection with others took place.”

Following this social experiment, the British Journal of Criminology did an independent study and found that since total decriminalisation, addiction had fallen, and injecting drug use was down by 50 percent.

And what on earth does it have to do with meaningful connection for you and me ?

More than you might imagine.

What if I told you that further studies have shown that drugs addicts are seeking meaningful connection and if they cannot find it they will form a strong connection or bond to a substance or an ritual that will give them some comfort. It could be anything from playing video games to taking cocaine.

But if you give them meaningful human connection with purpose that addiction falls away.

Portugal did not come up with their radical approach from nowhere. There were a series of experiments done on rats, a number of years earlier by Professor Peter Cohen.

Professor Cohen took a group of rats. In the first cages, he isolated the rats, with only one source of comfort to turn to – drugged water or plain water. The rat picked the drugged water every time and eventually overdosed and died. These rats represented, the street-addict, like the woman from my story at the beginning.

In the second cage the rats had the same, one drugged water bottle and one with plain water, but they stayed in a group and interacted with each other. The drug is the same, but the environment is different and there is meaningful connection with another like minded being.

The rats in the second cage could take or leave the drugged water and eventually ignored the drugged water all together.

Taking the studies deeper Professor Peter Cohen concluded that human beings are the same in their primal need to form deep and meaningful connections. It’s how we get our satisfaction.

Do you have to be an addict to want more meaningful connection ?

No – all you have to be is a human being – alive and breathing !

Connection is so important to you and me as human beings if we fail to connect with each other, we will connect with ANYTHING we can find — the whirr of a roulette wheel, a film, our phones, the thrill of a one night stand, junk food, or the prick of a syringe. But not all connections are created equal.

I’m sure you can start to see where I am going with this – the huge social experiment in Lisbon highlights the power of meaningful connection with other human beings over pretty much everything else.

Lets play a questions game :

What’s one thing in our normal modern day lives that stops us from meaningfully connecting ?

Most people would probably answer their phones, on this one. I know I have definitely been guilt of that one.

I want to encourage you, by introducing you to today’s sparkling* habit; which is to take one weekly digital day off.

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I suggest you take it in sync with your significant other and/or family. So you can really focus on connecting with each other. It will feel odd at first. But ultimately you will feel liberated and most importantly you are going to feel a sense of meaningful connection.

And that will go on to serve you for the rest of the week.

Although our connection/addiction to our phones seems to be very high. There is a Gift to this Digital Age that  you and I are living in.

What is the Gift of the Digital Age that you and I live in?

One of the best known geniuses of our time – Albert Einstein was asked what is the most important question for us to ask ?

BLACK TWITTER BIRDThe most important question : Is the world a friendly place ? If we believe not we will build walls, and guns and wars. If our answer is yes…then we are living in a very different and wonderful place– Einstein BLACK TWITTER BIRD


This is the gift of the Digital Age. We can use it. We can use Social Media to make connections to be friendly to one an other.To uplift each other. That is what we here at Team Alalia are here to do.

To use these tools in such a way as to create meaningful conversations with you that lift you up so that you can be your best self.

Here you will connect with people from all backgrounds and races and from many many different countries. There are no longer any boundaries. Now this maybe sounds idealistic.  But I believe the more you and I create and cultivate meaningful connection by speaking with people from all walks of life and backgrounds, who are inspired by a caring approach; the more you and me can offer the world.

We will know that the world is a friendly place. Because that is what we are creating.

You and I are lucky to already have some meaningful connection.

How can we deepen that ? I would like to invite for you to share with me now.

What do you do to cultivate your meaningful connection ?

How can we, Team Alalia and myself, better serve you to connect on a deeper level?

What would you like to discuss here ?

What topics or questions are the most important thing for you ?

I invite you to share what inspires you. I invite you ask questions. I invite you to connect.

Share with us in the comments below – I look forward to chatting 😀

Talk Soon


<3 Savannah 😀

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    Posted at 18:22h, 26 March Reply

    Life for me goes in a spiral… I come back to the same place over and over. It gets easier to get out of it, but it returns.
    It feels like one domino tips and then many more until too much of life is not happening or all it took was one more domino and bingo I have fallen too. And when I do…. I isolate myself. Who wants to hear my stories? My woes? Will I lose my friends if I tell them what is really going on … again? And it IS so isolating to be in that place. “We” feel alone. The whole world is against us and no one knows what we/Iam going through.
    Today I opened up to my support call for a biz I do and we share this in common. It relieved some isolation. It has given me some hope again.
    Thanks for sharing your story.
    I lived in Portugal in 2004.

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      Posted at 16:05h, 27 March Reply

      Cha 🙂
      I agree that there is definitely a ‘wave’ or spiral as you put it that goes through life…..I feel like its a natural heartbeat…or season. And sometimes some alone time can be good…equally though that community and like minded connection on a regular basis is so deeply powerful. I so love what you shared, so very real and I am happy you connected here and shared your story about connecting with your biz group 🙂 Your courage to be vulnerable is inspiring and I am happy to hear you were rewarded, as is so often the case when you surrender, with hope 🙂 Keep being your beautiful and sparkling self 🙂 <3 x

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    Magdalene Tamara
    Posted at 19:46h, 28 March Reply

    Beautiful post, Savannah. I commend and applaud you for the courage it took for you to write this authentic piece. Well done and amazing how you were gifted with the opportunities – which you drew to yourself – to turn an experience like that into a learning.
    It’s an inspiration for anyone to be able to read a post like that and know that we never have to remain stuck! Such a relief! And indeed it has given you the ability to be compassionate. I loved reading about the Lisbon experiment, it makes so much sense… It seems that lights are going on here and there and soon we will all catch ‘fire’ in the best sense of the word. Thank you so much for your deep and honest sharing, it is much appreciated!
    With Love,
    Magdalene Tamara x x x

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      Posted at 11:48h, 29 March Reply

      Thank you Magdalene for your thoughts and sharing 🙂
      I am so happy you felt connected to and enjoyed the story and that it served as a reminder to stay ‘unstuck’ 🙂

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    Winder Lyons
    Posted at 12:25h, 29 March Reply

    That was a great share Savannah – it set me off!

    I always find the “portal of freedom” when I am fully present in the NOW,
    and real, true and lasting connection can only happen NOW.

    Personally, I know time to be an illusion –
    (That’s also straight physics) –
    Belief in time is THE wide pathway to suffering – it’s the playground for all things negative: “The Infidels” / “The Traitors” / ALL negativity:
    sadness, regret, sorrow, fear, anger, lust, greed, pride, hate – and “The One Ring to Bind Them All”: ATTACHMENT –

    How attached am I to my “thought based identities”?
    How lost am I in my beliefs, ideas, or thoughts – conscious or unconscious?

    We catch illusions like any contagion.
    We then act on the ideas/thoughts/beliefs and give them substance – then the tail begins to wag the dog, and we lose ourself in what is pretend.
    We forget who we truly are in favor of an idea of who we are or thoughts about who we are.
    We then identity so completely with our beliefs that we believe our beliefs are ourself,
    and how attached we are to those beliefs determines how savagely we will defend them – as if we are defending our physical selves.

    Call it what you will: sin / maya / the world / the dream / matter / bling / “DROSS” / illusion / ducca / the devil, etc

    How disconnected am I from Myself? From my true identity? From the “deeper part” of me?
    What am I expressing: Love or not?
    (By default, if it’s not Love, it’s negativity – and those streams of actions have very different returns and results),
    AND – we always have choice in the eternal present moment –
    The only true, real, and lasting Connection is that.
    The rest is practice: it’s all really good, and there is always more.

    “Awakening” or RE-connecting – is a detox process: we shed everything that is false – like Michelangelo – chipping away (releasing) every thing that is not David.

    Authenticity is: found / felt / expressed / experienced – only NOW.

    So, for me, how I’m feeling tells the tale:
    — Have I been “snookered” into a pattern of negativity? A habit of some sort?
    — Have I been “possessed” by what is false – masquerading as true?
    — Have I been subverted by thought-based-identity?
    — Is it functioning as my operating system?
    — Is it expressing as me?

    Or, am I able to connect with, feel, and express Love…….am I really “connecting”!?!

    My prayer – every moment – is that Spirit download and act as my operating system – from there, all connections and returns are good.


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      Posted at 12:44h, 29 March Reply


      I love that closing thought – am I ‘really connecting’ ?
      Great question 🙂 I am going to reflect on that one….

      Thank you so much for your sharing and thoughts – so much to explore 🙂

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